Research has shown that cohabitation before marriage can increase the likelihood by at much as 20% of divorce for a few reasons:
- Lack of commitment: Couples who cohabit before marriage may be less likely to view their relationship as a long-term commitment, which can make it easier for them to end the relationship if they encounter difficulties.
- Differences in values and expectations: Living together before marriage can reveal differences in values and expectations about marriage and family life, which can be difficult to reconcile and can lead to increased conflict.
- Decreased stability: Research has shown that cohabitation can be associated with increased relationship instability, as couples are more likely to experience relationship transitions (such as breakups and reconciliations) before they eventually get married.
- Different attitudes towards marriage: Some couples who cohabit may have different attitudes towards marriage, with one partner being more committed to the idea of marriage and the other less so. This can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts that can eventually undermine the relationship.
It’s important to note that these are just trends and that every individual situation is unique. Some couples who cohabit before marriage have strong, successful relationships, and some couples who do not cohabit before marriage experience difficulties and eventually divorce. The key to a successful relationship is open and honest communication, a shared commitment to the relationship, and a willingness to work through challenges together.